My client recently started her own company and is struggling with work-life balance. She enjoys her work, but feels guilty when she spends time with friends. That is, there's a nagging feeling that she should be working instead. She also calculates whether or not to spend time with a friend based on how useful this person is to her business - which she does not like, and judges herself for it.
How much should I dig into these feelings of guilt and self-judgement (which she's aware of)? I don't want the conversation to get too negative.
Her objective is to find a way to move passed these feelings, with the goal of enjoying her time with friends (work-life balance).
I guess my larger question is: should we dig deeper into these emotions, or simply dive into work-life balance models? Or something else?
Your advice on this would be greatly appreciated!
This was very good learning. I explored the guilt with my client, and discovered that the guilt was also a symptom and not the cause of her imbalance as originally thought. A deeper blockage emerged (fear of failure) which we'll explore in the future.
What I learned: it's not about me (the coach). I need to let the conversation go where the client takes me, whether that is negative or positive.
I found myself in a situation where coaching it seemed that the client had a lot of guilt and could't make a decision because of the "guilt trips" of family - I was fearful of exploring this as it felt like it would move into a counselling space.
Reading Ben's advice is interesting - I am so looking forawrd to his feedback on my recording.