Most advice about starting a coaching practice assumes you’ve already decided to start one. But that’s not where most people are. Most people are somewhere earlier — and that earlier place deserves more honest attention than it usually gets. You might be employed, doing well enough, and harbouring the idea of having your own coaching […]
There is a reason fish don’t speak about water. Not because water is unimportant — because water is everything. It surrounds them so completely that it never occurs to them to name it. You might have the same problem. And you may not have realised it yet. The “water” you can’t see I know […]
The Comfortable Half-Truth We Tell About Coaching When people ask what coaching is, the easiest answer — and the most limiting one — is this: it helps you find solutions. It’s not wrong. But it is the kind of truth that, left unchallenged, takes something transformative and makes it sound merely practical. Like describing a […]
Helping someone move forward is not the hard part. Knowing what they actually need before you try — that is, and most people skip this step entirely. They offer encouragement when what’s needed is honesty. They issue a challenge when what’s needed is evidence. They remind someone of their potential when that person has already […]
Anyone who has spent time helping people has probably seen this before. A talented leader receives clear feedback, attends the programme, learns the framework, and leaves with a strong action plan. Six months later, the same pattern is back. Not because they did not learn.Not because the instruction was not clear.But because most development still […]
A Monkey sees a Fish thrashing in a shrinking pool after a flood. Wanting to help, it lifts the Fish out of the water and places it on a dry branch. The Monkey acts with care. The Fish dies. The mistake is not a lack of compassion. It is a failure of understanding. What looked dangerous […]
You don’t need a coaching credential to have a coaching conversation. If you’ve ever sat with someone who was stuck, worried, or second‑guessing themselves—and you tried to help them think clearly—you’ve already done it. A colleague says, “I messed up. I’m not cut out for this.” A friend says, “I know what I should do… […]
When you hear “self-care,” what do you picture?A quiet night. A walk. A slower morning. Permission to exhale. When you hear “push your boundary,” what shows up?Early alarms. The hard conversation. Raising your hand when you’d rather stay invisible. Here’s the tension: Resting can feel like falling behind, and striving can feel like self-betrayal. Many […]
You probably know this feeling. You tell yourself, “I shouldn’t be this afraid. I know what’s happening.”Yet when the moment comes, you freeze, hesitate, or pull back — almost automatically. It’s confusing because you’re not lacking insight. You want to move, but something inside you won’t. I saw this recently in a coaching conversation. The […]
We live in a culture that celebrates quick understanding. The faster we can explain, decide, or act, the more capable we appear. But in that rush toward certainty, something precious slips away — the part of us that’s still learning. I call this the fallacy of incompleteness: the moment we mistake partial knowing for genuine […]
